Hello all, and I am sorry, this is a picture heavy post. Well, sort of because you wont see cakes or desserts here. All you will see is us.
This is us.
I mean, this is us during our wedding and honeymoon days.
Last night while I was browsing thru old photos, I came across our pictures during our early days together. Unconsciously, I felt nostalgic. Those days. Those days when we were young and carefree.
Today, we have morphed from these carefree beings to fit the scene called parenthood, almost unconsciously. Everyday, we are swept away together by our little one’s delightful laughter. Our eyes welled with tears whenever she does something cute and funny. We would laugh so hard while our hearts melted inside with pure joy. Parenthood– we were totally unprepared for the infinite amount of happiness it can bring.
During our three years being married, I can say that being a mom and dad is totally different from being just me and him.
During the early days, date nights consisted of spontaneous driving around until we find a perfect coffee shop, then we end up taking long walks in the park until it is dark.
Today, date nights consists of watching movie in bed in the small screen of an iPad, with earphones stuck to our ears so the baby beside us stays asleep.
Before, my mind is occupied with ideas to surprise my husband, travel destinations, fast foods and fancy restaurants. Now, I am all occupied with grocery lists, house chores,baking, bill payments, doctor appointments and budgets. It is not really a big deal actually, but if you step back and look at the big picture, It is these little things that are slowly taking over our daily household scene.
This is not necessarily a bad thing, I guess. I think it is actually a natural occurrence, when a couple ease into the real scenario of married life. That is from being carefree people into ones with a family and real responsibilities.
I laugh at myself at times. Yesterday, I realized that I have been wearing the same set of shirts to work every week. A first world problem I know, but still. Haven’t I got extra time to dig deeper into my closet? because you know, Sanna, you have other clothes in there!
So what I am trying to say? Here :
Family life is a wonderful thing. A child. Parenthood. It is the best thing that has happened to me. But sometimes, I need to remind myself to slow down and smooth my hair. Sometimes, I need to pause and think about what I am going to wear. Dont just wear clothes randomly. Maybe, put my clothes together a little nicely. Sometimes, I need to show my husband that I am still totally smitten by him.
When was the last time I have been to a salon? Ages ago.
When was the last time I gave my husband a massage? Ages ago.
When was the last time I played my guitar. Ages and ages ago.
Again, totally normal right? The sweet chaos of family life takes away so much time for ourselves. And it’s totally normal.
But I guess, it wouldn’t hurt if we maintain a little zest in our daily hectic life. It would not hurt bringing back some passion and keep a little fire burning.
Its totally acceptable to have another life outside of parenthood and being a wife. Such are things I need to work on because I am slowly being consumed by so many things that I forgot about me. But then, who can blame me? Hey moms, can they blame us? Watching children and caring for a family is so rewarding.
But as they say, It is really vital to maintain a sense of self in any situation. To keep you as you.
So I say to myself, to my fellow moms, to Mr. Scribbles, we might not always have the time,Life may get crazy, but as much as we can, Let’s stay young, shall we?