On the sides of Motherhood
People say motherhood is the end of your old life as a carefree woman. I almost agreed to that during the first few weeks after delivery.
As much as there is joy upon having the baby, I had the feeling of being in the middle of nothingness. A slight postpartum depression has given me sad and weird emotions that I cannot longer explain now. I guess during those period , my emotions are heightened that even neutral situations seem very depressing to me.
I almost had no rest from the exhaustion from the hospital, to little to no sleep when the baby got home. The baby cluster fed from my sore cracked nipples every half an hour, all these while I was sore from stitches of giving birth.
It was a time of daily bad hair days, nasty eye bags and nightly fever and chills. I had no time left to myself.
I thought then, motherhood is really not an easy job. But things lightened up.
It was hard but It would not be like that forever. As my baby grows and the bouts of depression lifted, I became my happy old self once again. The baby brings me joy that I have never known before.
As I care for my baby, I make sure I care for myself too.
I try as much as I can to look good
To do things that fuel me
To care for my husband
To find joy everyday
I had to look after myself so I can better look after them. Its both a right and a responsibility.
Because on the sides of motherhood is still my own person. I’m not just a mother or a wife, but I’m also myself as a woman. I still have my own needs and my own unique source of happiness.
absolutely true. I can relate to that being a first time MOm to my now 7 months old baby 🙂
You are right. Motherhood should change us. In fact, it completes us. 🙂
PS: That looks like a good book!
thank you for dropping by Jenn! Goo day!
Hi sanna! thanks for viewing my blog. I’ve been in the same situation before as yours, I know how it feels. I’m happy that things lightened up!
Thank you for relating hanny:) thanks for the drop by too!
i totally agree with you, we can be better mothers if we look after our welfare + happiness, too, that way we can give back to our children + loved ones!
i have yet to get me a copy of that chico + del book, they are my faves, too! ^_^
Go get the book for a good laugh. Love love chico and del:)
Motherhood doesn’t mean you lose your identity…it just gives a new dimension to who you are. So that is right, sis…don’t forget who you are and care for yourself also. Your happiness also matters and when you are happy, it translates to the people you love so much, your hubby and your little baby. 🙂
thank you Aileen! I really find it easier to face each day when Im happy.People around me are happier when i am happy myself.